Timing is EVERYTHING...

"i cant get involved
feelings make it difficult
sparing your heart is me being adult
before it gets too far
i bring it to a halt"
-Pusha T.

when i first heard this line in the "Now we've had her" song (on the Road To Till The Casket Drops mixtape by The Clipse) it stuck out like a sore thumb. as simple as it sounds it actually is very deep. would a female see it as mature, or selfish, if a guy were to cut off relations with her, before her feelings for him made things complicated?

a lot of guys start talking to a girl knowing that @ the end of the day, they are not looking for a relationship. some men start talking to a girl, and express that in the very beginning, others wait until they are confronted by the girl to say what it is they were looking for. wen they know that they want the companionship of a woman, someone to go out or chill with, talk to, and obviously someone to have sexual relations with, thats all. but when feelings are involved, its never that simple. not to say all of the time, but usually in that scenario the girl is cool with just "talking" to the guy, at first. as some time goes along, they get closer, sex becomes a regular thing for them, they are still moving along smooth. its usually around that time, things are going good, you like her, she's cool, then she goes and asks "so....what are we?"

usually the guy will say something funny to try to avoid answering the question, like "we're humans duh!." but once that question comes up, its already gone too far. women know when to ask that question, its usually when they begin to notice that their feelings for the guy are getting stronger, which is based on the chemistry and connection that she BELIEVES that they have. ( i used the word "believe" instead of "knows" because a guy could very well talk to a girl for months and have the same feelings for her as he did when they first started talking, where as the girls feelings may grow and get stronger as time goes by). at this point, the guy doesn't want to say "we'll we are still not a couple if thats what you were thinking," because that's just rude. so a simple "i dunno" will do :- /.

soon enough, the fact that there is no title to the "relationship" that you guys have will become a problem, and also the root to a lot of other problems. and eventually what was a nice, smooth understanding between two people, will evolve into an annoying, ugly "break-up" where the girl tells her friends what an asshole the guy is. and the guy is left telling his homies that he had to dash that psycho.

is there a perfect time to reiterate to a girl that a relationship is not going to be the outcome? or is the guy just supposed to respond nonchalantly with an "i dunno" when being asked to define the status of their "relationship," and just allow things to fall in/out of place =/.
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